The Helping Fathers

I feel blessed to have a husband who is very hands on with our baby girl.

He genuinely enjoys feeding, bathing, and playing with her. He walks in the door from work and wants to feed and bath her, whichever is still needed, despite me saying no, and telling him to relax.

I have however, been surprised by how many people have commented on how lucky I am to have a husband who feeds, bathes, and when needed, even does the overnight feed. When our daughter cries, he too will respond. When our daughter needs feeding, he is happy to feed her. When our daughter needs an evening bath, he is happy to bathe her. Why though, am I lucky? Why am I lucky that my husband, the father of my daughter, is happy to do these things? The decision to have a baby was a joint one. We both decided we wanted to have a child and knew all that this entailed (or at least what we thought it entailed!!). We both knew it would be hard and would take some sacrifice (sleep, for example!), therefore why am I lucky? Why is my husband praised for feeding and looking after his daughter, yet for me, it is simply expected and without recognition? I understand my husband goes to work each day, however, there have been many days where I have honestly felt that going into an office versus staying home, was the easy option. I’m curious, when I return to work in the coming months, and still need to feed my baby girl over night and attend to all her needs, will I then receive such praise? Will I be praised for looking after my daughter? I think not.

Therefore, I ask again, why am I lucky that my husband, who chose to become a father, is happy to help look after his daughter? Why are mothers not receiving the same recognition and praise that these so called helping fathers are?


I’m Back!

Well, I’m ashamed to admit it but, as you can see, I’ve not written a post in well over 12 months. I had such grand plans when I originally created lovelifeandlaughter. I was going to immerse myself in writing, post every day, take photos, read and review books, it was going to be great! Hmmm.. something appears to have gone amiss. Life. Life happened. Since my last post I become busy with my career, my husband and I fostered a 9 year old girl, I became pregnant after 2 years of trying (yay!) and we now have a beautiful baby girl!

At the moment I find myself a little lost; I’m attempting to navigate my way through motherhood and this new journey that is now my life. So, I thought I would return to my love of writing and try to find a little bit of me, in a world that no longer feels like mine.

Therefore, I’m making a promise to myself, to lovelifeandlaughter, and to anyone who may be reading this. I promise to commit myself to this blog, to post daily, to being honest and reflective, and to fulfilling a goal I set out to achieve 2 years ago.

Wish me luck!